Offering Positive and Constructive Feedback

Positive feedback is a key tool in the development of young hockey players. The way parents communicate with their children about performance and progress strongly impacts motivation, self-confidence, and their overall relationship with the game. When delivered appropriately, feedback helps children grow, learn from mistakes, and reach their full potential.

Principles of Positive Communication

The foundation of positive communication is focusing on effort and process, not just results. Praise your child’s determination, work ethic, and growth. Use clear and specific praise that helps your child understand what they did well—for example, “You read the play well and found your teammate in a great position,” rather than a general “Nice job.”

Avoid comparing your child to other players and instead highlight their personal improvements. Communicate with respect and empathy, creating space for open dialogue. Make sure your praise is sincere—kids can easily sense exaggerated or insincere compliments.

Timing Feedback Correctly

The timing of feedback matters. After a game, give your child time to process their emotions. Some kids are ready to talk immediately, while others may need space. Respect their preferences and be ready to listen when they’re ready to share.

Create regular, low-pressure opportunities for conversation—like on the drive home or during a quiet moment at home. These moments are ideal for reflecting on progress, setting goals, or addressing concerns in a calm, supportive environment.

Constructive Performance Evaluation

Use the “feedback sandwich” method: start with a positive comment, then offer a suggestion for improvement, and close with another positive note. Focus on specific game moments and skills that can be developed. For example: “Your skating was really powerful today. Let’s keep working on passing accuracy. But your hustle and energy were awesome.”

Encourage self-reflection by asking open-ended questions such as, “What did you feel you did well today?” or “What would you try differently next time?” This helps your child become a more self-aware and thoughtful athlete.

Building Self-Confidence

Positive feedback is one of the most powerful ways to build confidence. Help your child recognize their strengths and track their growth over time. Keep your encouragement grounded in reality—balance praise with honesty, and remind them that mistakes are a normal and valuable part of learning.

Support your child in setting their own goals, and celebrate their efforts to achieve them. Create an environment where your child feels safe to take risks, try new things, and develop resilience.

Cooperation With Coaches

Align your feedback with the guidance your child receives from their coach. Communicate regularly with coaches about progress, and support their authority as the primary voice on hockey development.

If you have a concern or a different perspective, address it directly with the coach—not in front of your child. A consistent and unified approach to communication and evaluation helps your child feel secure, supported, and confident in their development.